New Things to Try in Bed with Your Partner
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Intimacy is the cornerstone of a strong relationship, and keeping the spark alive in the bedroom can bring you and your partner closer than ever. Trying new things together can break the routine, boost connection, and create unforgettable memories. Here are some practical, fun ideas to spice up your bedtime adventures—no outlandish props or unrealistic expectations required.
1. Explore Sensory Play
Blindfolded Guessing Games
Blindfold your partner and take turns feeding each other small, flavorful treats (like chocolate-covered berries, honey drizzled on fruit, or a spoonful of warm coconut oil). Let them guess the ingredients while you describe the textures—smooth, crunchy, silky. This slows down the experience, heightens senses, and turns simple tastes into playful anticipation.
Textured Touch Exploration
Gather items with unique textures from around the house: a soft feather, a fuzzy blanket, a cool ice cube, or a warm massage oil bottle. Use them to trace gentle patterns on your partner’s skin—back, arms, legs—and ask them to guess the object. It’s a tactile adventure that builds curiosity and closeness.
2. Rediscover Conversation (Yes, in Bed!)
“Our Story” Reflection
Before getting physical, lie side by side and take turns sharing:
- The moment you first realized you loved each other.
- A memory that still makes you laugh (even if it’s that time you spilled coffee on a first date).
- What you admire most about your partner today.
Revisiting these moments reconnects you emotionally, so when intimacy follows, it’s rooted in deep appreciation.
Fantasy Sharing (Lighthearted, Not Pressure-Filled)
Talk about a low-stakes, playful fantasy—maybe recreating your first “official” date night in bed (order takeout, wear the outfit you wore back then) or a silly roleplay like “roommates who just realized they’re into each other.” The key? Keep it light, laugh together, and focus on collaboration, not performance.
3. Slow, Intentional Movement
Synchronized Breathing & Stretching
Lie facing each other, hold hands, and sync your breaths—inhale for 4 counts, exhale for 6. Then, try gentle stretches together: reach arms overhead, twist slowly, or do simple yoga poses like “couples’ cat-cow” (one person on hands and knees, the other following their spine’s movement). This builds trust and physical harmony without rushing into traditional “sex.”
Massage With a Twist
Trade 10-minute massages, but add a rule: you can only use one hand at a time. It forces you to be deliberate, notice pressure and tension, and get creative—plus, the awkwardness (and giggles) keep things fun. Use a natural oil like almond or coconut (bonus: they double as lubricant later if things heat up!).
4. Gamify the Experience
“Intimacy Dice” (DIY or App-Based)
Draw or buy a set of dice with prompts like:
- “Kiss a body part you’ve never kissed during sex”
- “Whisper your favorite thing about my body”
- “Spend 2 minutes giving a shoulder rub”
Roll the dice and commit to the prompt—no overthinking! Apps like Kindu or Couple also have built-in games if you prefer digital tools.
“20 Questions” With a Twist
Take turns asking: “What’s one new thing I could do in bed that would make you feel loved?” Keep answers specific but kind (e.g., “Hold my hand during” or “Try that slow rhythm we talked about”). Then, actually try one of the ideas that night—no excuses.
5. Revisit Old Favorites (With a Fresh Spin)
“First Time” Redo
Recreate your first sexual encounter—same setting, same “vibe” (lighting, music), even the same clothes if you still have them. Notice how you’ve both changed (in a good way) and what’s stayed the same.
Favorite Position… Tweaked
Take your go-to position and add a small change: shift angles, use a pillow for support, or try it in slow motion for 30 seconds. Small tweaks can make familiar acts feel brand new.
The Key to Success? Let Go of Pressure
Trying new things isn’t about “performing perfectly”—it’s about curiosity and connection. If something feels awkward, laugh it off and try something else. The goal is to learn more about each other—what excites you, what makes you feel loved, and what keeps your bond strong.
And if you ever want to level up with products designed to enhance intimacy? Check out Lustella’s plant-based delay spray for men (to explore longer, more intentional sessions) or Lustella’s plant-based delay spray for women (to make every touch smoother). But remember: the best “accessory” is always your willingness to try, laugh, and connect.
So tonight—yes, tonight—pick one idea, turn off the distractions, and commit to 30 minutes of focused, playful intimacy. You’ll be amazed how a small shift can reignite the spark you’ve been craving.
What will you try first? Let us know in the comments—we’d love to hear your adventures!
P.S. Always communicate openly with your partner, respect boundaries, and prioritize consent. The best intimacy is built on trust first.
